…Don’t marry partner who is not family excited, says Love Doctor
kinds of people you shouldn’t marry
A Love Doctor, Mentor, Pastor Tosin Tope-Babalola, has advised intending marriage singles to not marry partner that is not excited about family life as it is a demanding kind of life, however, be sure the partner is excited to manage a home.
Speaking in his Daily Broadcast of 30 kinds of people you shouldn’t marry, he said that a partner who finds it difficult or disturbing to discuss children and home, it is wise to be very careful with such person.
In the news obtained by Daily News Nigeria, the Love Doctor deeply explained what is expected to look out for in courtship as it is the most sensitive level before marriage.
“Don’t marry visionless partner as most things courtship of this generation does is hangout and all sort of enjoyment. Instead to be a time of deep questioning, as you must be doubly sure of your partner’s vision unless you might end up having a conflict of direction, which is not ideal for the relationship neither marriage.
“Also note that your relationship must align in the same direction and that is why you need to make an enquiry before you settle down to be sure you are both heading to the same destination, although, all these may seem insignificant but the reality is that it will determine the success and failure of the marriage”, he exclaimed.
In his broadcast on the third party in relationship and marriage, he said one shouldn’t marry partner that is open-minded to infidelity. It is one of the major sources of challenges as there is no place that justifies infidelity and it is advisable to avoid such partner.
“Don’t marry partner that doesn’t applaud progress, if such a soul is not happy about your progress, it is not advisable to marry such partner because it could lead to enmity.
“Don’t marry partner that finds it difficult to let go of matters as it is important to evaluate your partner. Ensure he/she does not keep a record of a past incident.
Pressed further that marriage is a union of two forgivers as misunderstanding will surely arise and there are individual differences, nevertheless, whoever finds it difficult to forgive will find it hard to live a marital life. However, one should watch out such that if a conflict arises, such a partner can forgive and forget.
Pastor Tope-Babalola pushed forward many characters one should fly from before getting married as marriage is a forever certificate of ‘I DO’ to all situations. Below are other things to look out for in a partner.
“Don’t marry partner that lacks integrity as there is a partner who has no point of truth, which is very dangerous.
“Don’t marry partner that lacks focus as it is essential that such partner must focus because many things will happen during the course of the courtship and marriage.
“Don’t marry partner that is not sacrificial, be careful about a partner that finds it difficult to let go of temporary comfort.
“Don’t marry partner that is not independent because marriage is peculiar in its own stand, however, be careful with a partner who can’t decide independently but calling family and friends before a decision can be made.
“Don’t marry a very secretive partner that doesn’t make you known to family and friends, you need an open-minded partner.
“Don’t marry partner that doesn’t make you a priority as you are the number one priority in his/her life because you have become one.
“Be careful with a partner that is careless verbally, that brings down your self-esteem and careless about what he/she says, if bad or good.
“Don’t marry violence partner as the reality is that they don’t stop but grow in it. Be careful with such person and run for your life.
“Don’t marry a partner who escalates marital issues with family and friends, be careful with such partner”, Pastor Tope-Babalola submitted.