Love can be difficult to figure out, especially for those with little or no experience with serious relationships. Am I really in love? That’s the question a lot of people ask themselves when they become involved in a romantic relationship. Some people say the answer to that important question is: You will know it. For some people, that’s probably pretty good advice, but we are all different and some of us have a lot more trouble making sense of relationships than others. For most couples that first “I love you” is a very big deal. Is your relationship ready for that? Here are 8 things that can help you figure out if you are really in love.
1. YOU ALWAYS WANT TO BE WITH THEM
When true love comes along, some of your other relationships often take a hit. When you make plans, you want all of them to include your partner and you have a hard time with the idea of doing anything without them. There is no one other than your true love that you will want to spend more time with.
2. EVERYTHING MAKES YOU THINK OF HIM
When you’re in love with someone, he’s become an integral part of your life, and just about everything will make you think of him. This isn’t just because we like to think about the things and the people we love—that’s obvious … it’s because he’s become so central in your life that you consider him when it comes to just about everything.
You’ll not only think of him because you’re looking forward to seeing him after work, you’ll think about what’s going on with him … what special thing you can do for his birthday … what he’ll think about a problem you’re having that you don’t quite know how to handle.
3. YOU EASILY IMAGINE A FUTURE WITH THEM
Finding that person you truly love can change your vision of the future. You may envision of buying a home with this person and having children with them. Picturing your life with this special person 30, 40 or even 60 years in the future is a sure sign that you have truly found “the one.” This is an especially good indication if you have been involved in other relationships where you felt scared to death over the idea of getting married or having children with someone else.
4. YOU CAN’T STOP TALKING ABOUT HIM
When you’ve fallen in love with a guy, somehow you can lead any conversation straight back to him! It’s like 1 degree of separation, everything can somehow connect to him.
This is related to always thinking about him, because you not only can’t get him out of your mind, you can’t help but share everything about him with other people.
This is not the same as endlessly obsessing about how a guy feels about you and why he’s acting a certain way—those are signs of being obsessed and trapped in a negative place. When you’re in love you want to share that love with everyone around you–happy, random things about him that make you smile.
5. YOU WANT TO INTRODUCE THEM TO EVERYONE
When you are truly in love you have zero reservations when it comes to introducing that special person to everyone you know. You are proud and happy to show them off to all your friends and relatives and you just know they will all approve. You’ve already spent a lot of time telling them how great this person is and you’re super excited for them all to meet this wonderful and special person.
6. YOU RE-READ HIS TEXT MESSAGES
This is an undeniable one. You keep the entire texting conversation you have with him. When he se
7. YOU WANT TO KNOW HIS ENTIRE STORY
When we love someone, we can’t get enough. We want to know every story, every scar, and every scratch.
When you’re infatuated you’re more likely to want the focus to be on you. You’ll want reassurances that he’s equally infatuated with you, and your interactions will probably be more shallow.
But when you have real love, you’re endlessly fascinated by the details of his life, even the most mundane things. Maybe he’s in a job that isn’t interesting to you, but you’ll want to hear all about it.
8. JEALOUSY BUT NOT SUSPICION
It’s normal for a little jealousy to work its way into just about every relationship at some point in time. The difference when you are truly in love is that you may get a little jealous over your partner, but you are not suspicious. True love makes it easier to tackle your relationship difficulties head-on and work them out instead of getting mired down in excessive jealousy and mistrust.